Ladies, Start Your Engines...

Hello, my friends!

Yes, it’s time to start your engines. The holiday season is soon kicking off, and if you’re anything like me, it’s time to get busy with the wrapping and the love, the baking and the party-planning.

Not gonna lie, some years I go into the Christmas season with a readiness to BE THE JOY, but this year I’m feeling a little more like cosy-ing up in my pjs and then into my swimmers, and back again. I’m truly craving REST and PEACE.

How are you? How are you really?

Wish we could have coffee and croissants together this morning! I could use some girl-talk.

I met my beautiful friend, Claire, for coffee in a neighbourhood cafe. (And it was so funny — when I walked in, my husband and his friend were there after a long bush walk they’d done, my friend’s husband was there having coffee and I had to laugh…because where could I sit to talk about ANYTHING with everyone there!? Anyway. shout out to the local cafe for being brilliant!)

But back to Claire. She said something that stopped me in my tracks.

Joy or service.

Claire’s words felt right to me. I want to do things that help my people, that spread love in my community, that are useful and relevant. And I want to do things that bring me joy. (Writing - baking - coffee-ing with friends - gift wrapping and tree trimming - gifting ornaments I love - having lunches - all the fun things that brighten my own heart and the hearts of others.)

What I don’t want to do is carry the crap that does not matter:

• Regret

• Comparison

• Paralysing fear

None of those things will help me. They just ruin now, and squeeze the joy out of everything. This season, it’s time to deliberately seek the joy wherever I can find it. That’s my plan for Christmas. Would you like to join me? Would you like to let your shoulders down and be present to each moment that might contain a glimmer of good?

I hope you’re having a relaxing weekend, filled with at least a few things that you love to do.

Catherine x

P.S. The Fun Stuff!

• The red sandals you can walk in forever are on sale. Ideal for Christmas barbecues down under! They’re the perfect shade of red (in person).

• Welcome to Christmas in Australia! Ha!

• Speaking of cafes, let’s go to Paris!

• So cute for my sons’ girlfriends for under the tree. Can you imagine heading out for New Year’s Eve with one of these at age 19 and 23? I’ve got two wrapped up already.

• Mangoes! Yum! It’s the season around here…

• How fun is this…went to a meeting at my publisher’s office and this was there to greet me. I love how publishers do this. You kinda feel like it’s your “paparazzi moment”! Hahaha! The Bittersweet Bakery Cafe will hit the shelves in March 2025!

Come Over for Coffee...

Hi my friends, and hello to all the new faces around here. Wish you could come over for a coffee at my house in wintery Sydney! It’s time for a quick intro and a photo, so all the new people see who’s writing to them.

You’ve signed up for this Sunday newsletter from me, Catherine Greer, Canadian-Australian, author and mother, wife and small dog lover. I let my hair go grey at 49, which was a bit radical at the time. I love shiny stuff (fun rings, pretty dishes, crystal glassware) and I’m so glad YOU are here today.

How has your week been? How are you really?

I’ve been uneven.

That’s to say: my workout and weights routine has gone haywire, I haven’t been as consistent with walking, and I’m feeling a bit like I’m on the downward slide.

When my life gets like this, three crazy things help me. So simple that they’re embarrassing. Are you ready?

1. I take a sec to do my hair — wash and blow dry.

2. I make everything smell beautiful (scented candles, perfume, the nice body lotion on my hands, legs and feet).

3. I get outside in nature (a bushwalk, not the city streets).

And I remind myself of this. Take a breather, Catherine. Consider what really matters. Because as soon as I get stressed, my stress is what flows out of me. I get short with my family. I think too much about myself, my own worries and concerns. I ruminate. I worry until I tire myself out. And then…I speak unkindly to the people who matter most—to the people I’ve been given to love.

Because this is true:

Just for today, I’m going to be full of LOVE.

I have a Sunday to enjoy, and people all around me in this house and suburb and city who could use a little lightheartedness. It’s time to speak some FUN. To speak some joy. To be more encouraging to myself and everyone else.

I’m going to give that a whirl and see where takes me. I hope you have a beautiful Sunday, too.

Love Catherine x

P.S. The fun stuff!

• The Bittersweet Bakery Cafe is coming in March 2025. If you love to read for joy, and if you want a book that makes you feel good and have a laugh and see what it’s like to live in Australia, this one’s for you.

• Breathtaking! Do you also love white sand beaches?

• If you can’t sleep, here’s my favourite free meditation. This one works for me! 14 minutes.

• Love this cute travel outfit.

• The most wonderful Aussie cookbook. Easy, practical recipes. Everything is good. So worth it!

10 Ways To Get Unstuck

If you’re curious to read more, I’m guessing you’ve been stuck yourself. You know the feeling, right? It’s an ugly cocktail of confusion / doubt / worry with a big dash of lack of motivation.

For the past couple of months, this was my reality — and I needed to get through to the other side. And I have, just recently.

So if you’re also stuck, these tips might help.

1. Get dressed up. Putting on something that makes you look and feel good always helps. Always. My first boss told me this: the worse I feel, the better I need to dress. It’s actually good advice. So if you’ve recently gained a little weight (hello, this always happens when I’m stuck!), find something to put on that still feels good and looks good. You may not even realise you haven’t dressed your best for a while.

2. Figure out what you need to feel more like yourself. For me, this includes drinking LOTS more water, going for walks and getting to bed earlier. It also includes smelling lovely when I get into bed, so that means a nice shower or bath and favourite pjs.

3. Get an objective opinion from someone you trust. If you’re currently beating yourself up about being stuck, and hating all the confusion about where to go next, tell a person you trust. Admit that you need some wisdom. People are so smart! And generally everyone loves to provide advice.

4. Remind yourself you’re doing the best you can. Wow, we can be so hard on ourselves.

5. Start something new. Anything! Drop the heavy thing you’re worried about for today, and do something fun. But make sure it’s actually fun for you. You’d be surprised how many times we think we’re doing something fun, but it’s not really our type of fun. Example: I don’t love to travel. But travel is fun, right?? Except honestly, it’s not fun for me. Buying new books is my kind of fun.

6. Zig where you used to zag. If you get up early, try sleeping in a little. If you run, try doing a massive walk instead. Get a coffee from a different cafe. Listen to country instead of pop, or jazz instead of classical. Drive a different route.

7. Be productive in another way. If you’re stuck about a relationship decision or with your career, clean your kitchen drawers. Weed out your closet. Get your hair trimmed. Clean the barbecue.

8. Ask five whys. Ask yourself why you’re stuck. Then continue with “And why is that?” Do it five times to drill down and get to the heart of what’s happening.

9. Admit you’re afraid. Being stuck is always about fear. So announce that you’re afraid and tell yourself that you’ll try your best to be brave.

10. Practice being hopeful. Oh, this is big. Sometimes when I’m stuck, though I know I should be grateful, I really want to whack the person who reminds me to count my blessings. So I try to practice being hopeful instead. Ask yourself this important question:

And there you have it. My top ten ways to get unstuck.

Sending heaps of good vibes from sunny Australia!

Love Catherine x

PS. New people — you’re so welcome here! Thanks for signing up. I blog twice a week as I’m learning to love my age. If you have any ideas you’d like to share, email me!